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Five scary signs to watch for before committing

Scary Signpost #1: LIES. We’re not talking about slight exaggerations; we’re talking full-blown, look-you-in-the-eye, detailed whoppers told to make himself look better or more important, or provide him with excuses why things don’t go his way.
PULL OVER BECAUSE: Trust is the foundation of every relationship; without it, there is nothing on which to build a relationship.

Scary Signpost #2: CHEATING. Technically, it’s too early for someone to be “cheating” on you (after all, you’ve just started dating, and neither one of you should be promising fidelity this early). However, he can be cheating on someone ELSE — with you as the (hopefully) unwitting partner. Don’t flatter yourself into thinking that he is with you because you are so much “better” than the other person. Actually, what WOULD make you the better person — and better off, at that — is if you dump this cheating chump immediately.
PULL OVER BECAUSE: If he cheated on her, he’ll cheat on you.

Scary Signpost #3: NEGLECT. Everyone gets busy, and sometimes it’s really hard to schedule time with someone you care about. But if your sweetie went from major availability to never returning your phone calls — and when you DO talk, he makes you feel like you’re selfish for wanting a slot in his now super-busy schedule — it’s time to take him off your speed dial. A person who truly cares about you will always find a way to get in touch and times to get together.
PULL OVER BECAUSE: If someone makes you feel like a bother because you want his attention, he’s not worth the bother.

Scary Signpost #4: ABUSE. I know that you know that there is never, ever any reason for someone to physically assault you and that the only one allowed to say “You drove me to it” is you — to describe why you had to call the cops to take him away. Abuse, however, is more than just physical: It’s being criticized and put down to the point where your self-esteem crumbles; it’s being called names and being made to feel lucky to be in ANY relationship.
PULL OVER BECAUSE: No one worth having makes you feel worthless.

Scary Signpost #5: ADDICTION. He’s addicted to Court TV or keeps the sports channel on 24/7? Annoying, yes, but not scary. However, if the addiction is to drugs, alcohol or gambling — and he refuses to get help — you should consider moving on. Being supportive is great, but you also have to be invested in yourself and your future.
PULL OVER BECAUSE: You don’t want a man or a woman who can only manage being dateworthy on a “when I’m not incapacitated” basis.
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Just Be

I was lost and.....
I'm still lost but.....
I feel so much better...

You can travel the world
but you can't run away from
the person you are in your heart
You can be who you want to be
make us believe in you
keep all your light in the dark
If you're searching for truth
you must look in the mirror
and make sense of what you can see
Just Be....
Just Be....
They say learning to love yourself
is the first step
that you take when you want to be real
But flying on planes
to exotic locations
won't teach you how you really feel
Face up to the fact
that you are who you are
and nothing can change that belief
Just Be....
Just Be....
Cuz now I know
It's not so far
To where I go
The hardest part
is inside me.....
I need.....
to just be....
to just be....

Just be....
Just be...

Oprah Winfrey Presents: Their Eyes Were Watching God

Oprah Winfrey's new movie is based on the classic novel by Harlem Renaissance author Zora Neale Hurston. It is the hopeful story of a woman who, in the course of two marriages, finds herself emotionally suffocated, sexually stifled and utterly unable to express the life force that beats within. How appropriate, then, that the film should pre-empt "Desperate Housewives."

For Janie Crawford, magnificently brought to life by Halle Berry, life in 1920s Florida has few options. When the grandmother who raised her (Ruby Dee) realized she was more woman than girl, Janie was hastily paired off with a much older farmer. Unable to stand the isolation, she soon runs off with an ambitious entrepreneur, Joe Starks (Ruben Santiago-Hudson), who quickly turns the all-black hamlet of Eatonville into a thriving community. Leading the prosperous life of Mrs. Starks would be a dream for most women in town, but it's not enough for Janie.

After a short while, Janie realizes that she can't be the free spirit she wants to be and also be Mrs. Starks. "I had an inside and an outside now," she says, "and I know how not to mix 'em." Eventually, though, and at the risk of social opprobrium, she seizes the opportunity to love and live as she dreamed.

Even condensed to film, the story retains much of its power and romanticism, thanks to the adaptation by Suzan-Lori Parks, Misan Sagay and Bobby Smith Jr. There is a life-affirming quality here and an emphasis on the importance of change and the need for self-fulfillment. However, the motivation that drives Janie is somewhat, perhaps inevitably, muted. The first two men in Janie's life are portrayed as decent and generally kind, if not overly sentimental. In a place and time when a couple did well to afford life's necessities, Janie lived almost like royalty. That makes her fervent desire for self-expression appear slightly less urgent.

Winfrey called this her favorite love story of all time. She said she pegged Berry for the role a dozen years ago, though it wasn't offered until the day after Berry won an Oscar for "Monster's Ball" three years ago. It was worth the wait. Berry endows the character with a presence and femininity that is instantly appealing and sure to resonate with Emmy voters. There are noteworthy performances as well, from Santiago-Hudson as Joe and Michael Ealy as the passionate if occasionally reckless Tea Cake.

Darnell Martin presents the stark and the steamy equally vividly and with a color palette that lends authenticity to the period piece.

It turns out that my new job is so unbelievable exciting. I like to work environment. Everyday is a full of excitement. Day by day, I pick up a little bit of the job. Next week I got a lot of things to do, for instance, like looking for a new place, finish my report ( guess I have to finish that in my school, since my computer didnt work), go to my language lab(I will never take Chinese Class anymore, it is so boring.). I guess that is it. I know it doesnt seem like a lot to do, but to be able to finish all of them require a lot of enegry and patience.

These days I went to sleep very late, so I got a pair of panda eyes. Seriously, I love to watch Gilmore Girls.By not sleep enough, I look so much like a walking dead, I scared myself. I guess I have to get more BEAUTY sleep. 

We all want to fall in love. Why?
Because that experience makes us feel completely alive,
where every sense is heightened,
and every emotion is magnified.
Our everyday reality is shattered
and we are flying into the heavens.
It may only last a moment, an hour, or an afternoon,
but that doesn't diminish its value,
because we are left with memories
that we treasure for the rest of our lives.

 If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.
 If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love him/her, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return.
 If you fall in love with another, and he/she falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.

Never change something about you for a guy cuz you may be changing what some other guy likes about you! so be yourself everyone is different..

 Every girl wants a man that she can go to in sweats,hair a mess, make up running down her face, eyes red from crying and the first thing he says is "Baby your BEAUTIFUL" and means it..

Love can be good but it hurts like hell sometimes.  Falling in love can be hazardous to your health.  That's one of the things everyone should know about love.  For u peeps that treat love like a game, u probably won't know this.  Think about what you're doing before u hurt others cuz making enemies is no way to find happiness.

  There is a difference btw love, infatuation and lust... u know what I mean.  U can't really love someone u don't know... That's something called a crush.  Of course, wanting to... um... get in btw the sheets with someone isn't love either...That's lust... or a love jones... whatever.  U get it right?  Neway... Love is a mutual respect, affection, and adoration for someone else.  

As happens sometimes a moment settled...

... and hovered and remained for much more than a moment. And sound stopped and movement stopped¡K

... for much, much more than a moment.

And then the moment was gone.

John Steinbeck once wrote ¡§It seems to me
that if you or I must choose between two courses of thought or action, we should remember our dying and try so to live that our death brings no pleasure on the world."

You can't find what is not there. It just happens. No reasons or answers.

Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark in the hopeless swaps of the not quite, the not yet, and the not at all.

Do not let the hero in your soul perish in lonely frustration for the life you deserved and have never been able to reach.

The world you desire can be won.

It exists.

It is real.

 It is possible.

It is yours.